Are You Living Your Life on Autopilot?
Are you living your life on autopilot?
It was a wake-up call one of my clients had this week.
After birthing two children and raising them in the middle of the pandemic while working full-time, she was surviving. Which meant doing whatever was easiest, whatever took the least amount of effort, and whatever didn't rock the boat.
Living on autopilot is wearing yoga pants every day, not because you actually feel good in them, but because it's a habit you got into during quarantine and kept because it was easier than shopping for what you really love, which is dresses.
It's watching shows every night after the kids go to bed because it's what you've always done and you tell yourself you don't have the energy to change it up or try anything different like reading or puzzling or playing a game.
It's staying in a job you don't love because it feels easier with young kids than making a change to something new and unknown.
For my client, it was that last one - changing her job - that was the catalyst.
By making that decision to interview for and accept something new, she suddenly felt more awake, more empowered, and more curious to consider what else might be better if she just tried something different than her default.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm all for auto-pilot when it comes to things like laundry, getting groceries, and the everyday chores of life.
In fact, I strongly encourage you to put those parts of your life on autopilot if they aren't already. (Not sure how to do that? I can get you set up and running in just 90 minutes!)
Autopilot frees up capacity, energy, and space for you to be hands-on and awake in the parts of your life that matter.
Your goals, your relationships, and your joy.
But it requires you to pay attention.
Instead of going through the motions, you have to notice the things you're doing and be curious about WHY you do them that way.
You have to be willing to try skipping the Netflix show tonight and playing Cribbage with your husband instead. Not with the goal of loving it. But just trying it to see if you like it any better than bingeing Netflix. Or to see if you're able to go to bed earlier because Cribbage doesn't end in a cliffhanger the way your shows always do.
You have to be curious enough to put on a dress again to see if you still like wearing them as much as you used to. And if you don't, then you can go back to your yoga pants, but not as the DEFAULT, as your CHOICE.
Living intentionally, being awake in your own life, means being aware and choosing.
Trying something so that you know whether you enjoy it or not. Whether it works for you or not. Instead of just assuming it does or it doesn't.
Half of my job as your coach is to give you examples and ideas of how other women do things. Sometimes it can be hard to come up with the experiments, with the ideas, with what else is possible. I have hundreds of examples to share with you.
Then you get the fun part of choosing which option sounds good to you.
Together we craft a simple plan for how you're going to try it out.
You try it. You collect the data. We review it together. And then you CHOOSE.
You're awake to it all because you're aware of it all. And you're making choices along the way, instead of defaulting to autopilot.
This client has a beautiful new mantra that I want to share with you too:
My Life
My Choice
My Way
You're ready for a more vibrant, intentional life. One where you're aware of and actively choosing how you want to do things.
And I would love to walk you through the process.
Click here to schedule a time for us to talk about what you want for your life and how coaching can help you get there in the easiest way possible.