Instead of being this thing that felt so hard and so outside my reach, I narrowed my focus to what was within my reach. Some people call them "lead indicators" and the larger goal itself, the "lag goal". I love this concept and have been thinking a lot about that with other goals in my life and the goals that my clients are working toward.
Read MoreCreating a simple and realistic meal-planning routine is the most common topic that working moms bring to a Planning Intensive. After working through dozens of these meal-planning routines, each one slightly different from the last (because no routine is one size fits all), I know that all it usually takes is 30 minutes and we can have a plan mapped out so that you'll know exactly what to do next to put it into action.
Read MoreAny relationship that you have or that you've seen that's deep, strong, and vibrant, is the result of a lot of work behind the scenes. Good work. Fun work. Fulfilling work. But work nonetheless. Are you doing enough to cultivate the friendships you want?
Read MoreAs I was coaching a client recently on her feelings of mom guilt, we decided to try out a different word. One that doesn't come with so much weight and the thought that you've done something wrong. We swapped guilt for doubt. Mom doubt. (or just doubt because not everything we experience as moms has to be labeled with the word "mom". No one ever says "dad guilt".) Doubt doesn't mean you've done something wrong. It means you're unsure.
Read MoreAre you living your life on autopilot? It was a wake-up call one of my clients had this week. Living intentionally, being awake in your own life, means being aware and choosing. Trying something so that you know whether you enjoy it or not. Whether it works for you or not. Instead of just assuming it does or it doesn't.
Read MoreHaving a flexible morning menu allowed me to let go of the expectations that anything about my mornings had to be perfect. And it re-framed the whole exercise. What if you released the idea of an ideal morning routine, for now? What if you let go of the frustration and disappointment that comes from comparing others' routines to your lack of routine? And then trust that your time will come eventually IF that's still what you want.
Read MoreDo you create a summer bucket list? I love the idea of going into a season with some intention. Choosing how you're going to spend the time as opposed to letting the weeks just pass you by. But I know the downside could be that it turns into something that creates overwhelm and pressure to do all the things. Not to mention that if summer doesn't go according to plan, you could wind up feeling disappointed or guilty. Well, what if we approached things differently? Realistically? I think it's possible and here's how I'm going about it.
Read MoreIf you're in a season that feels like you have no end in sight, how can you lean in? How can you make it your purpose to go all in on whatever this season requires of you? And if you read last week's email, how can you track where you are today so that your future self can see how far you've come?
Read MoreAre you taking "photos" of your life? Are you taking snapshots and notes so that someday in the future you can look back and celebrate how much has changed? How much you've changed and grown? And are you taking the time to dream about what it is that you want to "plant" in your life? Being able to see and celebrate your progress is a skill and it’s not one that most of us are taught. But it’s crucial to feeling good in your life.
Read MoreThis is the time of year when everyone realizes that it’s almost the end of the school year and so we rush to fit all the things into the calendar while also juggling the holidays and other events that are fixed in May. I don’t have it all figured out, but I’m borrowing some of the strategies I use in December to create an intentional holiday season and applying them here.
Read MoreIt's incredibly easy to get swept up in the excitement of warmer weather, being with friends, celebrating end of school and everything else. So of course, the topic of over-committing is top of mind. Maybe it is for you too. Maybe, like me, you’re in a position where you’re already in the thick of it, wondering what you can do. What can you do if you've already said yes, submitted the registration, or made the commitment in some shape or form?
Read MoreFor most holidays, celebrations, and special occasions, I make decisions in advance by following a formula or a template just like I do for everyday things like meal planning and setting priorities. If you want to get started creating your own template, here’s how!
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